*This is another week where I am sincerely confused by the fruit/veggie comparisons. On one website, she’s compared to the size of a coconut. On another, an asparagus. …what?
One thing I’ll never forget about our wedding day was the establishment of our little life motto for our marriage: No Rain.
It’s the reminder that God hears even the silliest of prayers, and He responds in the most miraculous of ways, if only you keep your eyes open for the signs (pun intended) and blessings all around you.
As the story goes, we prayed and prayed and prayed that God would not let it rain on our wedding. We prayed that He would “carve out a time” as our Ceremony and Reception went on that the rain would be held back. And even though there was rain on our wedding day–LOTS of it–we had faith that God spoke through a railroad crossing sign and He wouldn’t let rain ruin our day. And that’s exactly what happened: from the moment I arrived at the venue to make my walk down the aisle, as the music swelled, to you standing there waiting anxiously at the end of it, not another drop fell from the sky until we left as Mr. & Mrs.
Since then, the last four years have been a testament to God’s goodness, no matter how much life weathers us. And you, my love, have been the anchor holding me to that truth even when I get discouraged.
J, I have seen you grow so much in the past year; in your leadership, in your convictions, in wisdom, in your work ethic, in the knowledge of how to fix all kinds of things that have gone wrong in our house (yay homeownership!), in your carpentry skills, in your desire to create things or bring broken things back to life. I’ve seen you stay strong, despite the disappointment and confusion, when life threw us something unbelievably painful and I didn’t recover so quickly. I’ve seen your face light up while making project that you’ve diligently researched and planned for come together, and it’s not because of the sweat. I’ve felt your hands gather up my hair as I so gracefully heaved into the sink or toilet or trashcan or disposable bag every morning for 3 months after we found out about our greatest adventure yet, and you never fell ill yourself because of it (praise hands). I’ve felt your arms wrap around me just because it’s a Tuesday night and you’re glad to be home having dinner with your wife. I’ve heard your unwavering voice speak scripture and prayer over me when the anxiety of the past came to haunt my present, and I’ve seen you lean on the Lord to overcome your own anxieties when they try to cripple you. I’ve heard you laugh and joke with me probably every day this year, and I’m so thankful for that alone. And soon I’ll get to watch you become a daddy to our little girl, and teach her to be as strong and courageous and caring and funny and kind and faithful as you are as she grows.
In every way, J, you have shown your love for Christ and, through His grace, shown your love for me.
And as our story continues, I’m more in love with you day after day, I’m more sure that God has never forsaken us and never will (No Rain!), I’m more excited for our future together, and I’m more thankful that it was you out of everyone in this world that our Father chose to be my truly better half.
Four years, going on forever.
I love you more than I know how to say, my J.
On August 28, 2015 we closed on our house, and on August 29, 2015 we moved in and began the crazy adventure of homeownership. One year later, and so very much has changed about our lives, and our home!
I’ll never forget the first couple of weeks in our house. In fact, the very day we closed on our house, we had the water turned on and immediately found leaky pipes under our two of our three sinks (welcome home!). Thankfully, it was a quick fix that only required us to buy new faucets. We also discovered an alarming amount of insects while we cleaned, and so dawned our relationship with the exterminator. One week later, it rained really hard and I discovered three leaky windows, which I caulked shut as a solution because J was out of town (what’s a girl to do?). Then a few days later, we learned how to unclog the pipes under our kitchen sink because I put too many veggie peels in the disposal. Since then, we’ve discovered several things that needed fixing, including but not limited to: exposed wires in our attic (fire hazards!), an external leak that ruined a bit of drywall in our bedroom, an outlet that went bad, and our A/C blower motor/computer went out this summer requiring $700 worth of repairs (that’s just the cost for labor, praise God it is still under warranty!).
We’ve had to learn a lot, and doing it quickly has been our only option. But we’re still just happy to be in our home, so we try not to stress too much about anything. We definitely laugh a lot (sometimes as a way of saying “unbelievable,” but trying to make light of the situation), we shrug our shoulders a lot because sometimes you can’t really do much else, we pray a lot for blessings and favor (which God has truly provided in abundance), and we have gotten really familiar with all the hardware and home improvement stores in our area.
But it hasn’t all been corrective updates; we’ve done some fun projects, too! My favorite project, hands down, was adding board & batten in our dining room–it just did so much for the front part of our house! We made a “catch-all” area by our front door for us to hang our coats and kick-off our shoes, J has built a lot of stuff for the garage (aka: his workshop) and a few things for the house, we planted an orange tree, we planted a lemon tree, we transplanted an oak tree in the front yard that didn’t make it (RIP tree), and we’ve refinished old things to give them a new look. We’ve gotten a new bed, a new (to us) dining room table, a new (to us) lawn mower, a new outdoor trashcan (isn’t amazing the things homeowners get excited about?!), a new (to us) day bed/trundle, and I can’t even begin to list all the differences in decor around the house. (Hopefully someday I’ll get around to taking pictures for a home tour! Maybe once the nursery is complete??)
Life in general has changed a lot for us since we signed that gigantic stack of papers, too. Shortly after we moved in, we found out we were pregnant. And a short month later, we found out we miscarried, and came home to recover. We hung up Christmas lights on our roof and the healing continued through the next few months. Then, we got pregnant again so quickly, and this one stuck (thank you, Lord!), so rooms have shifted: where we once had a music room and a guest room, we now have a guest room/music room and a baby room. A few months after we moved in, J’s sister and our brother-in-law moved into a house a couple of streets over and we hang out with them more than we ever have (and it’s awesome). And over these past 12 months, some of the close friends we shared so much of our life with a year ago have faded into friends we just “see around,” and some people who we’d just see around became much more apart of our lives. And, soon, a little girl is going to turn our entire world upside down–in the very best way.
As I look around our home tonight while I write this and reminisce, I am so thankful for the past 365 days here. Though some days weren’t so perfect, all those imperfections have given our home (and life) such character that I would never trade in for anything else.
…All aboard, the adventure continues!